Going through a divorce is likely one of the most difficult events you’ll experience, and it’s one that must be handled carefully. The situation becomes even more complex if you have children to think about during this time.
As you navigate through the divorce, remember that the things you do now can impact the children. Each of these mistakes can affect them in a negative manner so you should avoid them throughout the process.
Mistake #1: Letting emotions rule
The decisions you make during the divorce must be based on logic. Certain decisions, such as property division, can have a major effect on your future. Ensuring that you’re making the best decisions at each step can help put you in the best position.
Mistake #2: Using the children as messengers
Using children as messengers subjects them to experiencing raw, emotional, negative reactions if the parent they’re giving the message to doesn’t like it. There’s also a chance for them to relay the message incorrectly. Instead of passing messages through them, it’s best for you and your ex to communicate directly with each other.
Mistake #3: Airing grievances on social media
What you say on social media can be used in a case against you. Avoid airing out your grievances on social media. Before you post anything, including comments, think about whether you’d like them read in open court or not. If you wouldn’t want to read it in court, don’t post it.
Mistake #4: Refusing to focus on the child’s best interests
You and your ex must both make decisions that are in the child’s best interests. This isn’t always what’s easy, but it’s up to the parents to give the children the environment in which they can thrive.
Mistake #5: Failing to work with a legal representative
As tempting as it might be to try to handle everything yourself, you have to push those thoughts aside. Failing to work with a legal representative means you might not have all the options you should. Instead, work with someone who understands the applicable points in your case and can assist with protecting your interests and your children’s interests as well. There is too much at stake to take a DIY approach to this life transition.