Co-parenting your children after divorce means that you and your ex will have to work as a team to ensure they have the things they need. This isn’t always to do. In some cases, communications between you and your co-parent can even cause you a significant amount of stress.
There are some ways that you can make the communications with your ex a bit less tense.
Keep conversations focused on the kids
Your children have to be the focus of the communication. The things that happened in your marriage aren’t important unless they directly relate to the health and safety of the kids today. With very few exceptions, you also don’t need to concern yourself with what your ex is doing unless it affects the children. Keeping your mind on what’s going on with the kids should help to reduce your stress.
Keep communication consistent and be proactive
Staying in touch with each other is an important part of co-parenting. You shouldn’t wait until there’s a problem to contact your ex. Share other information about the kids. No matter what you’re discussing, keep a respectful tone and be careful about what you say. Additionally, never involve the children in passing messages back and forth. Instead, communicate directly with your co-parent.
Parents going through a divorce must ensure that they have a suitable parenting plan in place. This helps to ensure that the foundation is set for the children to have what they need. The plan should reflect what the kids need now. You can always modify it when the needs change as they mature.