Co-parenting can be challenging on many levels, as it may not be something you have experience with. Furthermore, there’s a good chance that the other parent may not be making life easy on you.
While you don’t have control over your children’s other parent, you do have full control over the decisions you make. As tempting as it may be, there are some things you should never say to your children after your divorce:
- Would you rather live with me or your father (or mother)? This puts your child in an awkward position, while also giving them the impression that there’s something wrong with their other parent.
- Do you really like spending time with your father (or mother)? Don’t try to talk your children out of the fact that they enjoy spending time with their other parent. This is what you want.
- It’s okay to tell me who your father (or mother) is dating: It may be something you want to know, but asking your children for feedback is not the best way to go about learning more.
- Don’t tell your father (or mother): If you don’t want your children telling their other parent something, there’s a good chance you shouldn’t do it in the first place.
- That’s why we got a divorce: Your divorce is in the past, so there’s no point in bringing it up to your children. It’ll only bring back bad feelings, and that’s exactly what you’re trying to prevent.
If life after divorce is difficult because your ex-spouse is ignoring the parenting agreement, don’t hesitate to learn more about your legal rights. There are steps you can take to get back on track.