Infidelity is never a good thing, and the mere accusation can rock the strongest of marriages. When you find out that your spouse has been cheating on you, it’s normal to be emotional and feel like your life has been turned upside down. However, many couples are so caught up in how an affair has harmed their relationship, they don’t realize the devastating effects infidelity can also have on children. If infidelity was part of your reason to divorce or why you’re considering it, it’s important to be aware of how this may affect your kids.
The Ashley Madison debacle has had many people up in arms over the number of people registered on the site, which is designed to help married partners have affairs. Statistics show, though, that affairs normally involve someone who is already close to the family. Common examples include a friend of the family, coworker or neighbor. Often, if the couple decides to divorce, the third party may remain part of the person’s life, which means the children are forced to deal with that person on a regular basis while also trying to process their parents’ divorce.
While it’s important to be as age appropriately honest with your children about your divorce as possible, you may want to seek outside counsel as to how much detail to give your children. Counseling may help you children feel like they have a safe place to vent their feelings, but keeping the lines of communication open between your children, you and your spouse is crucial.
If you have concerns about how your spouse’s infidelity may affect your divorce or a potential child custody arrangement, a Florida family law attorney can talk with you and help you understand what options you may have.
Source: Daily Record, “Ashley Madison, meet the kids: infidelity and divorce,” Leanne Italie, Aug. 29, 2015