The end of a marriage can be acrimonious, and dealing with each other may be incredibly challenging for you and your spouse alike.
While fighting over every last thing may seem valid at the time, the question to ask yourselves is, will it seem like a good use of your time when you look back in five or ten years’ time? Probably not.
It is easy to get caught up in the heat of divorce and allow your responses to each other to escalate. Yet that will not help you negotiate. While you might feel you shouldn’t have to negotiate, especially if you are divorcing because your spouse wronged you somehow, negotiating can make things easier for all involved.
How can you go about this when you struggle to talk to each other?
Get support from friends, family, colleagues and employers
If you are exhausted from working, looking after the kids and dealing with your divorce, you are more likely to end up in a bad place emotionally, making it harder to make reasoned decisions.
Allowing those that cherish you to take some of the load from your shoulders puts you in a better place to think clearly.
Get reliable information about the divorce process
Many people act out of fear when they divorce. They react strongly because they are scared of losing their assets or access to their children. Often these fears are because they lack accurate information.
While you must stand up for your rights, understanding the parameters divorce judges work within can calm things down. Once you both realize they are unlikely to give one person a vastly unfair share of assets or prevent one parent from seeing the kids, you can put the fears aside and start looking for a fair compromise. Seek legal help to find out more about handling your divorce.