There are few things worse in life than having someone you once loved deeply turn around and start causing serious conflicts with you. If your spouse has asked for a divorce and is causing conflicts, it’s important for you to address your concerns and start taking action to reduce your own stress while moving forward with your case.
There are things you can do to help you stay physically and mentally healthy during divorce as well as legal steps you can take to mitigate the risk of ongoing conflicts. Here are three ideas to keep in mind.
- Explore your feelings in the right settings
It can be tempting to get into an argument with your spouse about everything that’s going on, especially when they’re pushing for a fight. Instead of that, try to explore your feelings in the right settings. See a counselor. Talk to someone you know doesn’t have contact with your ex-partner. Give yourself the space to express your frustration or other feelings in a safe place, so those thoughts and feelings don’t necessarily cause further conflict.
- Set aside special time for your divorce issues
Another thing to consider is setting aside time to handle divorce-related concerns. For instance, you may have documents to return to your attorney or be receiving letters from your ex’s legal team. Set aside a few hours a week to address issues as they arise. Compartmentalizing the divorce this way may help you reduce your stress levels.
- Get legal help when you need it
Sometimes, you’ll need legal help. If your ex-spouse is being threatening or is harassing you at all hours of the day and night, it may be time to look into getting a restraining order or asking a court to order court-monitored communications. You shouldn’t have to deal with threats, harassment or nasty interactions. There are interventions that may help.
These are three things to consider if you’re involved in a high-conflict divorce. Addressing your feelings, compartmentalizing your divorce and getting support when it’s needed can all help you as your case moves forward.