No divorce is an easy or enjoyable process. However, some divorcing spouses can work together amicably to get a mutually beneficial result. Other spouses struggle due to the hostile relationship that they have, and this can make the divorce process even more difficult.
If you are feeling anxious and stressed because of the hostile behavior of your divorcing spouse, it is a good idea to reflect on how you can improve the situation. While we can never control how other people act, we can control the way that we react to the situations in front of us. The following are some tips for dealing with the stress that comes with divorce.
Engage in activities that nurture you emotionally
When dealing with the stress of divorce, it’s very easy to go into autopilot mode and focus only on surviving. You will likely put most of your energy into getting through the day and making sure that your children are taken care of. It’s important to remember that you need to be nurtured, too. Simple luxuries like running a hot bath or sitting with a good book can go a long way. You will feel emotionally nurtured and your stress levels will be reduced.
Allow yourself to feel all emotions
Many people try to skim over any negative emotions that they are facing in the hope that they won’t have to feel them. But these emotions get buried deep, and they will rise up eventually. You should focus on trying to be present with your emotions. Divorce can and should be a grieving process, so allow yourself to dwell in the sadness for a while. This will help you to gain closure and to eventually move forward.
Keep a diary
Making a daily routine to keep a diary can have a profound effect on the human brain. Writing down all of your thoughts is a good way to relieve stress. In addition, it can help you to organize your thoughts, analyze your emotions and create solutions for the challenges that you are facing.
If you are going through a stressful divorce, it is a good idea to put energy in being as organized as possible so that you can regain a sense of control.