Divorce is one of those things you have to personally go through in order to understand the true impact it will have on your life. Even if you have helped a loved one through this in the past, it's different when you are the one in the middle of the process.
The way you prepare for divorce has a lot to say about how you proceed and the way you feel along the way. Here are some things you may run into that you weren't expecting:
- There's a feeling of being lonely: Even if you know your divorce is for the best, you're sure to feel lonely at times. It's something you'll need to get used to.
- You don't have to be in a rush: You want to get your life back in order as quickly as possible, but don't rush through your emotions and the recovery phase.
- You'll need to take time for yourself: You're going through a lot, so caring for yourself is a big deal. If this means taking time away from work to rest your mind and body, do it.
- You may second guess your decision: No matter how bad your marriage was, you may wonder if you did the right thing. It's hard to deal with, but totally natural.
There are many unknowns as you step into the divorce process, so don't assume that you know what's coming your way. The best thing you can do is prepare for anything and everything and adjust as necessary.
When you take this approach, while also understanding the legal process, you're doing everything you can to succeed.